The Excuses Of Not Talking About Abuse……Because PART TWO

To Continue the conversation started in post yesterday……THE EXCUSES OF NOT TALKING ABOUT ABUSE…..BECAUSE let’s keep on talking.

We don’t talk about abuse as much as we should…..Because

Because nobody else is talking about it and I’ll feel like the only one
Because I don’t want anyone else to know my dirty secret
Because I didn’t think about talking about it until now
Because I am afraid
Because I don’t want to get low
Because it’s overwhelming….. there’s too much and if I start talking will I ever stop talking?
Because I want to still be me and not a victim
Because I don’t want people feeling sorry for me
Because I don’t want my batterer or abuser to win by letting it affect my life now
Because I’ve moved on and don’t want to go back
Because I don’t want counseling…..only weak people need counseling
Because I might get so angry that I would do something I’ll regret
Because I don’t want to think about it or remember the details
Because I let it happen…..I didn’t stop it
Because people will think I’m unlovable
Because people will think I’m promiscuous
Because I don’t know what words to say…..I don’t know where to start
Because my abuser is still alive and I couldn’t face having to go to court
Because my partner would literally kill my abuser
Because I am too busy and I don’t have time to sort it all out and get on with the rest of my commitments
Because people are too busy to listen
Because people have their own problems…..they don’t want to hear mine
Because the last time I talked about it I wasn’t helped