10 Guidelines To Behave Towards Our Kids

1. Apologize to children when you are wrong.

2. Do not assume you’re smarter than a child simply because you’re older.

3. Say thank you to children when they do something for you or others.

4. Admit when you’ve made a mistake and admit it openly to them.

5. Listen to children, avoid to neglect them at all cost.

6. Be sure to set boundaries for acceptable behavior.

7. Lead by example.

8. Teach and practice compassion, kindness and love.

9. Explain to them that actions have consequences good or bad.

10. Let them see that you enjoy watching and nurturing them.

https://www.lifecoachcode.com/2019/04/12/behave-in-these-10-ways-towards-kids/

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New Research Reveals Some Secrets Behind Ketamine’s Ability To Treat Depression

Ketamine, once used frequently as a battlefield anesthetic during wartime and more recently as a club drug, has found new acclaim in its use to treat depression. Scientists and medical professionals have documented Ketamine’s ability to alleviate depressive symptoms in just hours, but didn’t really understand how it worked. Now new research hints at revealing the secret mechanism of action. In the most recent study, mice were injected with a stress hormone and then recorded exhibiting depressive symptoms such as refusing to eat in addition to recording the loss of synaptic connections in their brain. The mice were then given a dose of ketamine as investigators recorded surprising brain changes. The synaptic connections previously recorded, started to repair themselves after only twelve hours. In addition to repaired neuronal connections, the depressive symptoms that the mice had shown disappeared almost instantly. Ketamine therapy holds great promise in being able to quickly treat suicidal thoughts and depression, and this research helps uncover its secrets.

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/04/11/712295937/ketamine-may-relieve-depression-by-repairing-damaged-brain-circuits

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Just Because It’s Called A Conspiracy Theory Doesn’t Mean It’s Not True

I am compelled to write this post after reading a particular article written by Joan Coastan for the media outlet Vox. https://www.vox.com/2018/12/31/18144710/conspiracy-theories-trump-2018-qanon-soros-false-flags

For some reason, this article really struck a nerve. The title of the article is ” Why Conspiracy Theories Matter” so it caught my eye. However, as I began to read this it became quickly apparent that the story angle was not what I anticipated. My summation of the article is that the writer is trying to sound an alarm that conspiracy theories undermine all the giant systems of our nation and are in fact quite dangerous. She alleges that our political, judicial, scientific, and medical institutions suffer greatly from the rampant conspiracy theories spread through our country; and that we the people are all somehow harmed because of this. She further claims that under the current Trump administration, the danger has become even more pronounced. A direct quote from her article..

“Perhaps the reason conspiracy theories seem more powerful than ever is that a conspiracy theorist is now in the White House — a president who is a birther, an occasional vaccine truther, a climate change hoax believer who argued in 2016 that Ted Cruz’s father somehow assisted the assassin of John F. Kennedy.

In the Trump era, when long-held facts seem to matter less, conspiracy theories — theories that create not just, in Kellyanne Conway’s terminology, “alternative facts,” but an entirely new reality — are more threatening, and more critical to understand, than ever before.”

Well gee whiz everyone, we better all rush to put an end to this conspiracy nonsense straight away! My gosh, we have to find a way to get those free thinking people to conform with our indoctrinated brainwashing that we have worked so hard to instill in the public’s minds for so many years. Free thinkers and the average person using their own discernment and questioning what we tell them will be the downfall of our nation! NOT!!! Sarcasm alert.

Is it just me or does this go against everything a free and open society is supposed to stand for? Don’t we all have the right to decide for ourselves what we feel is the truth and don’t we have the right to change our minds as when we get more information? There is a word for zombie like blind belief in what you are told from those who are in positions of power and influence. And that word is not FAITH! Philosophers and sages throughout recorded history have always advocated that a person should seek the truth for themselves, research on their own, and use critical thinking to verify the veracity of what they are told.

Well, let’s examine some evidence. In our country’s recent history, have there ever been so called conspiracy theories that the passage of time has ultimately exonerated? As a matter of fact there have been many. Here is a link to just one of the most recent articles showing evidence of once crazy theories now proven to be factual. https://themindunleashed.com/2018/10/10-conspiracy-theories-true.html

There is so much that I could write to debate the article mentioned above on Vox that it could easily comprise a book. But I want to touch on just one specific conspiracy theory that this article mentions….. vaccines. As a direct quote from the article, “the anti-vaccination movement, led by conspiracy theorists who wrongly believe that vaccines cause health problems.” Not exactly a fair and balanced statement. In fact, the CDC just updated its own website this past February regarding the MMR vaccine with information on that directly contradicts her quote. The CDC now lists nine categories of people who SHOULD NOT receive the MMR vaccine. Also listed are mild, moderate, and severe risks of vaccination reactions along with a link to the National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program! The link can be found here https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/hcp/vis/vis-statements/mmr.html

So can we reasonably demonize conspiracy theories? And why are these theories really so prevalent in our lives today? Could it be that more people in our society are viewing the world as an unjust and unfair place full of hypocrisy? Could people be awakening to the fact that the last majority of wealth and power is concentrated in a few while the many have to toil twice as hard to achieve half of what their ancestors did? Could it be that the seemingly endless cases of corruption have made people question how this is all happening? Are these same people trying to understand the root cause of what most feel is misery on a national scale in an effort to figure out how to make their own lives better?

Perhaps instead of calling 2018 the year of conspiracies we should call it the year of the rise of free thinkers! Nobody has all the answers, nobody is going to magically save us from our disenchantment with the state of the world. We have to learn to question everything, yes even authority, in a conscious and respectful way. We need to do our own due diligence and come to conclusions for ourselves while still honoring the right of others to have their own views. We need to keep on going.

Maybe we should stop calling these conspiracy theories and start calling it THE CRITICAL THINKING MOVEMENT. Hmm.

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Hey Universe, I Hear You This Time!

Juanita-Lewis Universe is callingThis post is about a tremendous AHA moment I experienced on Friday. It is so powerful that I needed to share it with all my fellow seekers out there. You see, like many others I am aware of way too many moments in my daily life where stress, anxiety, depression, and a sense of despair threaten to undermine if not destroy my happiness. With all the daily practices I have in place to increase my conscious awareness, I still am a work in progress and prone to ruminating about the tragedies in my past and fretting over my future.

I begin each morning with a silent gratitude session, before my feet even touch the floor. This small ritual is a fabulous way to set the tone for the day. After I drink my deliciously flavored coffee, finish with my personal hygiene, and dress – I then have my morning meditation session. There are days when I am not as religiously adherent to this schedule as I would like myself , but on the whole it is a steady routine of mine. Later on, typically about 6 PM, I have an evening meditation session and finally about thirty minutes before I go to sleep…..or attempt to go to sleep at least…..I put on one of my self-help relaxation CD’s and drift off. Sounds good, right? So what is the problem…..you might ask? Well, even though these steps have positively impacted my physical, mental,emotional, and spiritual health…..I still find myself in states of extreme anxiety throughout the day with a feeling that there is a giant boot poised right above my neck about to stomp down and crush the life out of me.

So, I muddle through day by day, seeking solutions and tools that will help me increase my life satisfaction. I am a firm believer in the concept of Go Give. I find that by giving back and helping others…..even in small ways such as offering a smile to a stranger…..I gain just as much satisfaction as the person I am helping if not more. One activity I do in that vein is volunteering as a legal advocate in the local courthouse for people who want to file for PFA’s…..or protection from abuse orders. This is where, on Friday this week, I met her.

She was a well dressed middle-aged woman with piercing green eyes wearing what looked like elasticized bandaged sleeves on both her arms. She was glad she had made it here….. in the tiny coat closet sized room given to the woman’s advocacy center I volunteer for in the basement of the courthouse.  As is my custom, I offered her a seat and a box of tissues and asked her how could I help her and what brought her to here this day. As she began to tell me her story, I found myself so captivated that time just seemed to stop. Over the next hour, she shared with me story and why she was seeking a protection order that day. But it was not so much her story that hit me like a bolt of lightning hurdled from the sky…..it was her attitude, the peace and love that radiated from her, and the sense of unflappability that she displayed. The universe was speaking to me, through the form of this brave woman…..and I was listening this time.

She is a survivor of childhood incest and adolescent rape. By 24 she had given birth to four children and escaped from a tortured and abusive marriage. At 37, a devastating car accident landed her in a coma for 17 days and more metal in her body holding her together than I can imagine. Then at 45 she started the journey of dealing with the  big C…..stage 2b metastatic breast cancer. This lead to lymphedema which is why she was wearing support sleeves on her arms. She had psychiatric hospitalizations for earlier suicide attempts and takes medication daily for bipolar depression. During that time of mental health crisis, she found herself in the wrong place with the wrong people and is now facing two separate legal battles that could potentially send her to prison for decades. Oh, and they found tumors in her uterus so she is undergoing a hysterectomy at the end of this month. She found herself on this occasion filing for a PFA for her 3-year-old grandson against his biological mother’s new boyfriend. Wow…..and that is the short story.

As I was struggling to comprehend the enormity and pain of her journey through life and offer her support and compassion, I realized that I was more shook by her account than she was. Is it my imagination or is she just exuding this amazing steadiness and calm? And it wasn’t an act…..she truly gave off a vibe of peace and serenity that I have only witnessed before in yogis and advanced meditators. I politely asked if she would be willing to tell me her secret for seeming so happy and at peace while facing what seemed like overwhelming circumstances. She paused for a moment, taking a deep breath, and said she would be happy to share it with me.

“It didn’t happen overnight, and it hasn’t been easy,” she replied “but I have finally learned to deeply love the person I am. You see, I have been at rock bottom for most of my life and it got to the point that I only had two options left….end my life or turn things around and go up. Naturally, I tried the former approach first and when that didn’t work I began to research and look for ways to radically transform my life. I spent my whole life trying to give…..it was my job to keep everyone else as happy as possible. I didn’t mind giving to my children. I wanted them to have a happy life. But I didn’t give to myself and I didn’t know how to receive anyone else trying to give me help. ”

Boy, did that hit a nerve with me. How many of us are programmed to give but don’t have a clue about how to receive? I was just mesmerized by her and wanted to hear more. “I learned that if I am constantly putting energy out and not allowing any back in, the message I am sending out into the universe is there is no space for abundance in my life. I also needed to learn to love myself and appreciate the moments, people, and things I did have. I spent so much time and energy worrying about what HAD happened to me and what MIGHT happen to me that I never got to appreciate what really WAS happening. When I finally learned how to be present in the moment…..to live in the now as they say…..I feel like my whole life changed and I became almost reborn.”

I have read about this concept before. I do try to practice being present and enjoying the moment that is. Yet, I heard this from her as though it was a brand new revelation. For whatever reason, this time and in this space with this woman, I got it. If she can take the practice of living in the now and implement it in her life in a true deep way to make it automatic, then I can too. This woman came into my life looking for my assistance and help, but instead gave to me a gift that is truly so precious. Live each moment as if it is the only moment, because it is truly the only moment that ever matters. And practice loving yourself as deeply, truly, and profoundly as you give love to others. Pay attention, bring conscious awareness to your thoughts and emotions. Allow yourself to feel and to think as you may, but stop and witness these thoughts and feelings and consider that you do not have to act on any of them…..only acknowledge them and watch them. Live in the now…..what a concept! Hey universe, I heard you this time.

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