Verbal abuse | WELL CALL ME CRAZY

To Continue the conversation started in post yesterday……THE EXCUSES OF NOT TALKING ABOUT ABUSE…..BECAUSE let’s keep on talking.

We don’t talk about abuse as much as we should…..Because

Because nobody else is talking about it and I’ll feel like the only one
Because I don’t want anyone else to know my dirty secret
Because I didn’t think about talking about it until now
Because I am afraid
Because I don’t want to get low
Because it’s overwhelming….. there’s too much and if I start talking will I ever stop talking?
Because I want to still be me and not a victim
Because I don’t want people feeling sorry for me
Because I don’t want my batterer or abuser to win by letting it affect my life now
Because I’ve moved on and don’t want to go back
Because I don’t want counseling…..only weak people need counseling
Because I might get so angry that I would do something I’ll regret
Because I don’t want to think about it or remember the details
Because I let it happen…..I didn’t stop it
Because people will think I’m unlovable
Because people will think I’m promiscuous
Because I don’t know what words to say…..I don’t know where to start
Because my abuser is still alive and I couldn’t face having to go to court
Because my partner would literally kill my abuser
Because I am too busy and I don’t have time to sort it all out and get on with the rest of my commitments
Because people are too busy to listen
Because people have their own problems…..they don’t want to hear mine
Because the last time I talked about it I wasn’t helped

Let’s end the silence. Talk about abuse. Instead of propagating Post Traumatic Stress…..let’s start a movement of Post Traumatic Growth!

Stop Family Violence! (Photo credit: Krisztina Tordai)

Domestic Abuse: Don’t They Know Better? (nicole8marsh.wordpress.com)
Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Violence (psychcentral.com)
I am broken… (hurtarmywife.wordpress.com)
Dear Mrs Social Worker. (myjourneydowntheroadlesstravelled.wordpress.com)
But He Has Never Actually Hit Me… (manysmallvoices.wordpress.com)
Battered Wife Syndrome (marmarthunder.wordpress.com)

If we aren’t alone…..if staggering statistics clearly show that abuse is a worldwide problem that does not discriminate……affecting people of all races, gender, financial status, religion, sexual orientation, background, etc……then why don’t we talk about it more. Well…..Because

Because it’s difficult
Because of the repercussions
Because of what other people will think of us
Because I don’t want to hurt anybody
Because no-one will believe me
Because there is nothing they can do about it
Because I’m an adult now…..so i have moved on
Because I’m trying to forget it happened
Because it’s not a big deal…..I got over it
Because it happened a long time ago
Because the family would be torn apart
Because they will think I am crazy
Because I don’t want to be a burden
Because I will called a liar and labelled mentally ill
Because I feel embarrassed
Because I feel ashamed
Because it would upset my family, my children
Because it’s no big deal….nothing much happened anyway
Because nobody will do anything about it now
Because the abuser won’t be brought to justice….so what is the point
Because the facts in my head are a bit fuzzy so I don’t want to say anything that isn’t 100% true
Because everyone else seems to have it all together and i don’t want to stand out as the weak one
Because I don’t want to look like an attention seeker
Because I don’t want to draw attention to myself
Because I don’t like being vulnerable to me vulnerable means victim
Because I might get so low that I won’t be able to pull myself out of the black pit of depression