What To Do When Your Life Falls Apart

Sometimes when things fall apart, they are actually falling into place (Photo credit: symphony of love)

I found this OH SO appropriate post by a contributor to The Daily Love…..a blog curated by Mastin Kipp. The author of this masterpiece is Kute Blackson, speaker and life coach and one of my newfound sources of inspiration! I hope you all find it as moving and touching as I do and that it helps…..even just a little bit…..through those tough days we all have.

 

When your life as you know it falls apart, it is a great blessing.

 

Give thanks.

 

In that moment realize that your life is actually falling together even though you might not see it.

 

If your life falls apart then you are ready for something bigger.

 

It falls apart because it was too small for who you are becoming.

 

It falls apart because there is something more that is seeking to express itself in and as your life.

 

It falls apart because what you were living is no longer in alignment with who you are.

 

It falls apart because life is letting you know that perhaps you have gotten too comfortable where you’re at and need to grow to the next level.

 

Life is change. Life is growth. Life is a cycle of Creation-Life-Destruction. Every birth is another form of death. And every death is another form of birth.

 

Often when things fall apart we become afraid, we panic, we resist and fight life. We hold on to what we know, even though it no longer works or serves us.

 

This only keeps you stuck.

 

Holding on to the old will not bring what is new. Resisting what is new will not transform or change what is old.

 

When life falls apart you can resist or fight, which ultimately only leads to suffering and struggle.

 

So, what do you do when your life as you know it falls apart?

 

Simply, LET GO!

 

Perhaps it’s a relationship, job, or a house.

 

Let Go! And Trust.

 

Trust that what no longer remains in your life is no longer meant to be there. And that the Uni-verse is just making room for what is more in alignment with your highest good.

 

When things fall apart, the Uni-verse is trying to make space for something greater.

 

When life as you know it stops working and falls apart this is the moment to let go of your ego, as it can only take you so far. This is the moment to let go of your ego’s attachment of how your life should be, and surrender.

 

In every crisis is an opportunity to let go of what is inauthentic and live with more integrity.

 

In every breakdown is the blessing of a breakthrough.

 

In every challenging situation is the gift to help your soul evolve and become who you were really meant to be.

 

So if your life as you know it is falling apart give thanks and…

 

LET GO!

 

Love.Now

 

Kute

 

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The Excuses Of Not Talking About Abuse……Because PART TWO

To Continue the conversation started in post yesterday……THE EXCUSES OF NOT TALKING ABOUT ABUSE…..BECAUSE let’s keep on talking.

We don’t talk about abuse as much as we should…..Because

• Because nobody else is talking about it and I’ll feel like the only one
• Because I don’t want anyone else to know my dirty secret
• Because I didn’t think about talking about it until now
• Because I am afraid
• Because I don’t want to get low
• Because it’s overwhelming….. there’s too much and if I start talking will I ever stop talking?
• Because I want to still be me and not a victim
• Because I don’t want people feeling sorry for me
• Because I don’t want my batterer or abuser to win by letting it affect my life now
• Because I’ve moved on and don’t want to go back
• Because I don’t want counseling…..only weak people need counseling
• Because I might get so angry that I would do something I’ll regret
• Because I don’t want to think about it or remember the details
• Because I let it happen…..I didn’t stop it
• Because people will think I’m unlovable
• Because people will think I’m promiscuous
• Because I don’t know what words to say…..I don’t know where to start
• Because my abuser is still alive and I couldn’t face having to go to court
• Because my partner would literally kill my abuser
• Because I am too busy and I don’t have time to sort it all out and get on with the rest of my commitments
• Because people are too busy to listen
• Because people have their own problems…..they don’t want to hear mine
• Because the last time I talked about it I wasn’t helped

Let’s end the silence. Talk about abuse. Instead of propagating Post Traumatic Stress…..let’s start a movement of Post Traumatic Growth!

Stop Family Violence! (Photo credit: Krisztina Tordai)

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• Battered Wife Syndrome (marmarthunder.wordpress.com)

The Excuses Of Not Talking About Abuse…..Because PART ONE

If we aren’t alone…..if staggering statistics clearly show that abuse is a worldwide problem that does not discriminate……affecting people of all races, gender, financial status, religion, sexual orientation, background, etc……then why don’t we talk about it more. Well…..Because

• Because it’s difficult
• Because of the repercussions
• Because of what other people will think of us
• Because I don’t want to hurt anybody
• Because no-one will believe me
• Because there is nothing they can do about it
• Because I’m an adult now…..so i have moved on
• Because I’m trying to forget it happened
• Because it’s not a big deal…..I got over it
• Because it happened a long time ago
• Because the family would be torn apart
• Because they will think I am crazy
• Because I don’t want to be a burden
• Because I will called a liar and labelled mentally ill
• Because I feel embarrassed
• Because I feel ashamed
• Because it would upset my family, my children
• Because it’s no big deal….nothing much happened anyway
• Because nobody will do anything about it now
• Because the abuser won’t be brought to justice….so what is the point
• Because the facts in my head are a bit fuzzy so I don’t want to say anything that isn’t 100% true
• Because everyone else seems to have it all together and i don’t want to stand out as the weak one
• Because I don’t want to look like an attention seeker
• Because I don’t want to draw attention to myself
• Because I don’t like being vulnerable to me vulnerable means victim
• Because I might get so low that I won’t be able to pull myself out of the black pit of depression

Let’s work on getting past the excuses and getting help. Let’s raise awareness to create change. Let’s end the silence on abuse.

Related articles

• Domestic abuse is NEVER okay. (tamsinhopkins.wordpress.com)
• No room for excuses when it comes to abuse (velociriot.org)
• It Doesn’t Matter When It Happened Or What Kind Of Sexual Assault It Was/Is (ssaitco.wordpress.com)

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